Once a teenager was taken to a doctor with complaints of
behavioral disturbances due to poly -substance abuse. When his history was
probed he told that “my father is a chronic alcoholic. He sends me to buy
alcohol. He even uses cannabis for smoking. But I never scold him. Let him
enjoy his freedom. I want to enjoy mine.’’ Then when the doctor spoke to the
father he told that “sir I drink daily. But I go to work properly. Look at him.
He is not studying or going to work. Then how can he drink?” The father
politely came close to the doctor and questioned “sir I have used many
substances but my son is using a new one a white substance to sniff what is
that? Is it more euphoric? “What should the doctor tell the father? If the
answer was yes the doctor would have turned the father too towards glue sniffing.
The poor man never understood the real problem in the house. He was always
blaming his son.
A young couple bought
their four year female child to a pediatrician with complaints of not obeying
the parents. Their told the child was watching pogo channel continuously and
refuses to change another channel or switch off the TV. The child was not doing
the school homework regularly and often the class teacher complaints about that
to them. They wanted to assess the IQ of the child. The child was assessed and
IQ was found to be normal. During the course of interview the mother told that during
infancy the child used to cry a lot and refuses to take food. So the mother
switches on the TV, keeps a cartoon channel for the baby to see and feeds the
child. She was doing that for nearly two years until the child went to
playschool. Since both the parents are working they don’t have time to spend
with child. Don’t have time to sit and talk and help the child in her homework.
From the two experiences which we had, the readers would
have understood who the culprits were. Yes friends childhood period is one
which is very important for every child. We should always be able to spend time
with our children and sacrifice a few of our interests for the good nurturing
of our child. Denying the proper support and then worrying for it makes no
sense.So friends spend time with your children. The way you behave to them is
the way they are going to behave back to you.
LETS MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
Dr. Bevinsathya.
